Parisian Living

Une Vie Parisienne in New York City

by Elise Marafioti
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Elise Marafioti

Elise was born and raised in New York where she pursued a career in classical and modern dance. During a hiatus from performing, she moved to Paris and attended the American University of Paris. After living in more than six different arrondissements over the years, soaking up as much of Paris as possible, she returned to New York. Throughout the years, Elise has taken every opportunity to return to Paris and has also traveled extensively throughout Europe. View Elise Marafioti's Website

20 comments on “Une Vie Parisienne in New York City

We lived in Paris and NYC and we would most definitely recommend Le Moulin à Café in the Upper East Side – more like Yorkville actually. It’s a cute little French café you can sit at and read French magazines and buy French products!

Elise –I enjoyed your post so much. I also went to Paris as a teenager, but in my case that was almost 50 years ago! I felt at home the minute I arrived (despite being a New Yorker, with all the native quirks you describe so well) and stayed for 4 years before returning to NYC. Marriage and family (and poverty) kept me from my beloved Paris for too long, but I finally returned with my own teenage daughters—who fell in love at first sight just as I had. I understand your dilemma very well, but am coming reluctantly to the conclusion that New York and Paris are mutually exclusive—and working on a way to spend lots more time in Paris. Is it possible to be a flaneur if you’re incapable of walking at a pace any slower than 4 m.p.h.?

You capture this beautifully. I’ve been between NYC and Paris for several years now. Although I still miss a chopped salad on the go, I’m finally feeling more like a slightly out-of-place Parisienne with an accent now. In New York, everyone was always declaring how FAH-RENCH I was sipping my short coffees and always asking if Pellegrino was an option. But now I suppose I another entitled American missing Hale & Hearty in Paris.

Do you miss your inner New Yorker when you are in Paris?

Great post!

I do love living the vie Parisienne but for god’s sakes can we PLEASE get these metros in Paris to run 24 hours, or at least past 1am?? And for the record I find the Paris metro dirtier than the NY subway, as was made clear me me once again when I had to ride in a RER B all the way from Denfert to Gare de Nord with a huge pile of vomit next to me that everyone kept accidentally stepping in!

Michael McCarthy

Great post! You captured the spirit of Paris and Parisiennes beautifully. I hope you’ll make it back soon!

It’s great if your family and friends are travelers: you can understand each other 100%. And can advise and support. 🙂 Have a great time in Paris whenever this is!

Let us know.

After reading all of these comments, I feel like we have a great networking group in the making. Anyone else seeing get-togethers forming in our respective cities? 🙂

My sentiments exactly. 🙂
I wonder how many of us there are here in NYC??

We will be returning to NY to live after almost 6 years of living in Buenos Aires, Argentina. ( The Paris of South America ) ha!
Actually, it is French in architecture, Italian in cafe life and men and Spanish in most everything else. But the people here learn to speak English, usually from English people, so they have British words and ways of speaking. Now I don’t speak Spanish well and my English now has words like “lift” and ” telly” …
While I cannot wait to be back in NY, I am so sad to be leaving the people here, behind.
Tell me the people in NY are warm and friendly and kiss upon meeting you ! por favor 🙂

Peter-Paul Essers

Inspiring story, if I find the talent to compose music, I would compose a symphony called “A parisienne in New York”. Too bad Gershwin can’t here this spinn-off.

Upon reading this, “As a native New Yorker, I possess certain habits that I can’t quite shake, even when living abroad. I tend to speed walk everywhere, and I consider jaywalking to be the right-of-way, no matter what. I strike up a conversation at every checkout counter, and I can’t help but leave a fifteen percent tip for bad service. When I hop into a cab, I make sure the meter is running before telling the driver we’re heading to Brooklyn. And in the subway I scream, “Hold the doors!” as I fly down the stairs, but of course I scream at others when they do the same.” I realized I am not alone! I’m a native New Yorker living in SF and I do all of the above even after six years. Phew! I’m not alone. 🙂

Love this! I’m from California but I’ve spent a lot of time in France and Australia–and I’m moving to New York next month! Not sure how much I’ll be able to let go of the work-life balance I’ve picked up in those places 🙂

Elise Marafioti

Thank you all for your kind and thoughtful comments! NYC and Paris are equally wonderful cities, and I feel so fortunate to be able to carry them both with me always. Of course, whenever I’m in one, I desperately want to be in the other!

@Géraldine: I was definitely teased by some of my American friends when I first moved back to NYC due to the strange accent I had acquired. While living in Paris, I had grown accustomed to speaking English with mostly non-native English speakers and appropriated many incorrect idioms and pronunciations into my speech. 🙂 I think it’s interesting that my family and most of my closest friends are frequent international travelers or former expats as well. I suspect this commonality does create a special kind of bond!

@Milsters & @parisbreakfast: Good luck with your moves!
@parisbreakfast: I can guarantee you will feel endless nostalgia for NYC. Be sure to come back and visit!
@Milsters: Fear not – Paris will be stay with you always! And I guarantee you will find every excuse to return.

Thanks Elise for your post. 🙂

When you are expat once, there is no way back. You have to live with your difference.

To so many French women, New York sounds like THE place to be. So I hope it is not as far from the French way of life as other might be.

I’m a big fan of your “inner Parisienne” influencing your American life. 🙂

How did your family and friends react, do they see you changed as well? Have they traveled too?

This was a beautiful post. I feel like it is recounting a story that I will myself encounter in the future: sitting on that pile of boxes in my apartment in the 11e, as my visa expires… It gives me hope and courage to know that the inner Parisienne always lives in inside of us, and that when we take the leap of faith like living in a golden city like Paris, we walk away always taking the *good* of it all with us.

With much love


Love this very honest and evocative post.
As one about to make the move the other way, I wonder if I’ll have nostalgia for NYC..?
merci carolg

What a most fantastic post!

I am a native San Diegan, who has lived 20 years in San Diego and now 20 in New York and now am looking forward to a way to get at least 20 in Paris!

There was nothing that I haven’t loved about my time in Paris, and I love that Amelia mentions the Monoprix because it has become a favorite of mine.

New York and Paris do seem like quite the match made in true romance fashion. Of course, Chicagoans remind me that they are technically the sister city to Paris. I’ll just keep believing it’s NYC. 🙂

Dear Elise,
I loved your post today and understand your challenge. I am a native New Yorker and love my city, but I totally agree with your desire to create une vie parisienne in here. While I have never lived in Paris, I do make sure that I travel there as often as possible and this last time I actually rented an apartment with friends and had the added joy of purchasing food at the marché, bread at the boulangerie, cheese at a recommended fromagerie and Monoprix is my favorite place for almond soap and other little goodies.
In my attempt to create une vie parisienne in my hometown, I guess I’ve started at home – creating a little French haven of my own that I invite family and friends to, my closets and cabinets are on the way to housing only those things that I love, are beautiful and needed. I’ve learned how to look around me and take my time getting places – being a flâneur – and it’s amazing what little goodies I’ve found when I’m not whizzing by store fronts and people. And on and on.
Keep embracing votre vie parisienne. In some ways it goes very well with une vie New Yorker.
(Love the photos.)

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