As an expat in Paris there is one question I am asked without fail when meeting a new person. “So what brought you to Paris? Was it love?”

Oh man, do I wish I had a love-based story to explain my relocation to Paris! There is nothing more romantic to my mind than falling in love, throwing caution to the wind, and following your heart to Paris. I have lived that story in other cities. The reality is that I moved to Paris alone to follow a job. Slightly different.

a woman sitting on top of a bench next with a man walking by in Parisian park.
photo by Carlos Urrutia

The other day I met up with a fellow-Australian friend living in Paris. At a certain point my friend, who moved to Paris with her husband, turned to me and said: “I could never have done this without him. I have no idea how you do this on your own.”

How Did you Move to Paris alone?

To be honest, it was the first time I had ever thought about it. I have friends who moved to Paris for love. I have friends who moved to Paris for work, with their love. I have friends who moved to Paris simply in search of adventure. Picking up and moving countries is tough no matter the circumstances. Expat life in Paris is hard (and also really awesome!) for all of us. But I believe there have been moments which were harder for me as someone who moved to Paris on my own.

woman in black tank top standing near the Seine in Paris.
photo by Venus Major

Challenges: Phones, Bank Accounts, and Finding An Apartments

Like the day I tried to open up a French phone plan. I found out I needed a French bank account, only to be told by the bank that I needed a French address. This was all fine except that the real estate agencies refused to call me back without a French number.

During that period it would have been nice to have someone there to tell me that I wasn’t going insane. It would have also been handy to have someone accompany me to my real estate viewings. They might have been able to spot that apartment number one would have a jazz band playing beneath it until 1am. Or that apartment number two had so little ventilation that mold would soon start growing behind all of my furniture. Most importantly, it would have been nice to have a shoulder to cry on during those days when my resolve was being tested and I started to ask myself if the Paris dream was worth all the hassle (and to reassure me that yes, yes, it certainly was!).

a woman standing in front of a round window with a view of the Eiffel Tower
photo by Joshua Jumarie

The Positives: Freedom, Dating, and new Friendships

There are also so many ways that my experience of living in Paris has been enhanced because I came here on my own. When you’re on your own you are forced to make new friends, so you do! It’s also easier to say yes to spontaneous invitations when you don’t have someone waiting for you at home with dinner on the table and Netflix cued.

Oh, and let’s not forget the way that access to the Paris dating scene has enriched my experience! Ah, dating! At first I wasn’t sure whether to put this in the “pros” or “cons” section of my Paris experience. Sure, dating in this city has nearly killed me. And yes it has been demoralizing and exhausting at times. But I have also had a lot of fun. I have generated stories to one day tell my grandchildren (mostly to scare them off dating). I have even ended up making some friends out of it. So I’m going with “pro”.

I’m convinced that if I had a shoulder to cry on I would have cried more often than I actually did. As it was, I often had no choice but to pick myself up and just get on with it. And at the end of the day I can say that I did this all on my own.

I got my ex-boss to write a lettre d’honneur to say that I was living at his address (I believe he still receives my bank statements to this day) in order to open up a bank account. I found a new apartment, and then another, before I finally found the apartment of my dreams in an area I already knew I loved thanks to apartment number two. I am resourceful and resilient and all the more so thanks to my experience tackling Paris on my own.

selective focus of a woman crossing a Paris street
photo by Venus Major

More Pros: Travel and Self Discovery

When I first moved overseas it was an excuse for me to live in Europe and travel the continent one cheap Ryanair flight at a time. However I have stayed here because I found that I got to know myself so much better when separated from everything I knew, and everything that knew me. I don’t think I could have had that same experience had I moved overseas with someone else.

But, by the way God, if you’re reading this, and you happen to know of any single, French men who don’t have commitment issues then — you know — feel free to throw them in my direction. Until then I’m just gonna keep on sourcing my own apartments with varying degrees of success and spending WAY too much money on cocktails and shoes! And I’ll be proud that I did it all myself.

Moving to Paris: Pros, cons

What are some of the pros of moving to Paris? 5 weeks vacation a year, a 35 hour work week, it’s multicultural, wonderful social welfare (free health care and education + affordable childcare), high quality food, and culture and beauty all around.

What are some of the cons about moving to Paris? Poor air quality, pick pockets, if you do not speak French well the language barrier can make integration difficult, dealing with administrative tasks.

How much money does a single person spend per month living in Paris

The average price spent on living expenses for a single person is 3,168 Euros.

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Candice Johnson

Candice is an Australian living in Paris, a city she loves relentlessly but which doesn’t seem to love her back. She writes about her misadventures in Paris at Paris Is Just Not That Into You.

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